Myths about Introverts
I’m fairly introverted. That might sound odd, given that I make a living as a performer (also hard to believe, really), but I tend to find that the best actors are actually fairly introverted (not calling myself a great actor of course – though I aspire to be one). I suspect it has something to do with their tendency to observe and analyse in a way that they can then bring out on stage. There are no doubt exceptions to this, but I tend to find that people who like to ‘perform’ in daily life aren’t always great on stage. I’ve had a number of people who know me comment on their surprise after eventually seeing me on stage.
Carl King has come up with a list of ‘10 myths about introverts‘, which has a few interesting points on it. Like all labels, I don’t relate to all the points, but here’s some I did:
- Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
- Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
- Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
- Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
- Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.