Contemporary culture and marrying young

In the garden
We married ‘young’ at 21. I’ve lost count of the number of times people have reacted with astonishment upon learning this. “Wow, you were so young!” they cry. To be honest, I find it quite patronising (not least because it usually comes from unmarried people) but there’s not much use getting concerned about it.

I identified with much of what Mark Regnerus, a professor of sociology at the University of Texas had to say in this fascinating interview:

Q So everyone should follow your lead and marry young?
A People can say about me, “This a moron who married at 22 and he wants us to live the life he did.” I’m not doing that. But there is a common narrative now that says you’re not ready for marriage and this is something for later on. I want to poke a few holes in it. My wife and I can look back and smile at the times we shared, but today people get together later and they have to instruct each other what their life was like because they did not share it. Today it’s about smashing two independent people together. It also taught us a great lesson in thriftiness.

(via Challies)

2 responses to “Contemporary culture and marrying young”

  1. Mr. Freelance says:

    Hear hear Andrew! Couldn't agree more with you and Mark Regnerus.

  2. Murray says:

    Thanks Andrew – Jen was 19 and I was 20. Coming up to 37 years in November and we have this great sense that we have shared 2/3 of our life together. Who'd want to miss that!

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